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Sunday, December 27, 2009

How to Have a Happy New Year?

Ladies, tough choices to make for News Years Eve. I mean the dress, The Hair and the shoes. So, why would you mess your FLY emsemble up with a flawed accessory, your date. Secrets to picking out the right accessory(your DATE):
  1. He must Match your ideas thoughts and sentiments.
  2. He must Coordinate with your level of fun and social network.
  3. He must Enhance while Supporting the contours of your overall goal which is to have fun.
  4. And lastly, he must be a Great Kisser! Don't wait to find the last Secret out.

Monday, December 21, 2009

How to Save some Time Money & Energy This XMAS

Ladies, I am here to tackle some of the tough questions that arise during the Holidays, especially XMAS. One question that comes up is, "What do the lonely do at XMAS?"My response is very simple "THEY SETTLE". Don't call that Recycled Negro to make YOU LOOK GOOD at dinner. When they ask what did you get each other for XMAS what are you going to say "Bride SEX" so he would come an be seen with you. Don't Settle! Stop looking for the approval of people who won't help you clean up the mess.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Remember to thank you for loving you to day first, then everybody else can get their chance.

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Create the Ideal "You"

Ladies, in shaping the kind of person you want to be seek out those kind of people. Get Mentored! If you wish to be wealthy keep the company of wealthy people. If you wish to dress better surround yourself with stylish peole. You create and built ever apect of your persona and you built it with the material that has su...rrounded you from day one.You are a direct result of your thoughts. What are you thinking about?

Friday, December 11, 2009

Get connected and flourish in the divine that is "YOUR LOVE". Built for you to use , "YOUR LOVE" is the one tool that exist for you to change to world. Unfortunately, some people only love what they own or control. Think about it! "YOUR LOVE" is the fuel that drives you to action. It utilizes your positive feelings to bring about positive and creative change. Between the two emotions Fear & Love it is the one we use the least.

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Can “YOU” get what you want?

Ladies, can you ask for what you want from men or are you afraid to disturb the waters? Can you ensure that you are clear in what you want, like a WOMAN, or are you living a life of surrender and settling? The most common response is "I won't get it", “He won't do it" and my favorite, “He won’t LET ME”. Be different! Manifest all that you want.
In relationships, woman has learned over the centuries that the surrender technique is their best weapon against the physically imposing. Seduction was and is a woman’s best kept secret when it comes to getting what they want. The trouble is that very few women know “Seduction Techniques” anymore. They are usually overtly sexual and lack the sophisticated tactical implementation at the point of contact.
The old passive-aggressive technique is the most overly used approach known to man. It works because it allows a woman to appear to surrender her POWER, while women perform a psychic conversion on their target. But like all tools, if you don’t sharpen them they become dull. Having other mechanisms in place allows the mind to be more creative and fluid. Simplicity and vision are additional examples of other mechanisms you can utilize to get what you want.
Men are powerless against a woman who is sure, confident with persistence, utilizes a concentration of effort and definiteness of purpose. There is no extreme mathematical computation necessary. It is as certain as the sun.
When a woman is sure and focused, free from the distraction of exterior influence she gets what she wants. When a women is confident because of her persistence of what she wants she is sublime and cannot be turned down. For what is hers is hers and it cannot avoid her or detour her. A concentration of effort causes all that she desire to manifest right before her instantaneously. And a definiteness of purpose causes her to make decisions quickly and change them very slowly.
The fatal flaw that women have is their willingness to second guess themselves. They are the most intuitive of the species, yet they succumb to the poison of perception and giving a thing or a person a second chance. With this sense of doubt they ignore the thing that makes them great. Don’t Second Guess Yourself!

Ladies, can you ask for what you want from men or are you afraid to disturb the waters? Can you ensure that you are clear in what you want, like a WOM

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Ladies, knowing the difference between a professional boyfriend and a professional husband will help you weed out the fakers. Sometimes your boyfriend cannot transition into a professional husband and vice versa. Often times reckless expectations confuse the two. He is what he is, nothing more or less. Knowing this can SAVE you "Time, Money & Energy".

Monday, November 30, 2009

What Steve Harvey Forgot to Say.

What Steve Harvey Forgot to Say
By Jay Thurman
Author/Speaker/Writing Consultant/Entrepreneur
Author of the book, "The Man-You-All (A Guide to Save Black Women Time, Money, and Energy)

Steve Harvey is a genius! He has created a branding empire. He is a multi-millionaire who rose from meager beginnings to take over the comedy world. Steve Harvey is a man who has always been a self starter and business man even from the very beginning. His accolades continue to increase even now as he successfully ventured into the world of being an author. His best-selling book titled "Act like a Lady-Think like a Man" has been critically acclaimed, not just by the African American community, but by all segments of society. When I was asked by CEO of CWR- Donell Edwards had I read the book I had to respond in kind by saying-no? I thought it would be a great opportunity to see what the fuss was about. Many ladies seem to ask me about how do I feel about Steve Harvey's book and I always say that," I welcome any opportunity for women to stop and discuss topics about not only men's points of view about relationships but their own." As a relationship guru I applaud an intelligent well thought out commentary about relationships.
Steve Harvey's Book is not the Bible for all women seeking answers about relationships with men. It is a perspective that a man who is aged and seasoned in the ways of women and the simple manipulation men perform on them talked about with fervor and passion.
However, the rules of engagement have been changed due to the myriad of options women now have. As style appears to change and technology appears to grow at a rapid rate consciousness about relationships have also changed. The key to having insight into the mind of a man is first having the insight into the mind of oneself, as a woman. I say this because for thousands of years women have laid back in the shadows wielding their sword of influence and power from the shadows. Now, women by the mere greatness have emerged and need a new way of dealing with the children (men) they expect to LOVE THEM. Steve Harvey has got some good points in reference to developing standards and developing a plan of attack. A lot of women "just go with the flow" and will not just admit that they do this because most of the time they don't know what they are doing with a man so, they just let him lead without any qualifiers. Expecting "a man to be a man" and do the things that a man is suppose to do is too broad and dangerous for women with their first encounter with a potential suitor. Decide what is good for you! Build a plan around you first and then the needs of outside entities second.
Steve Harvey has even got a good solid way to deter the riffraff that contaminate the intentions of a good woman.
Point: Find out if the price is too high.
Many men want the "free one" or "the hook-up" when it comes to dealing with women. Basically, men want to deal with as little as possible in pursuits of a woman's time, money and energy. Women usually don't let a man know what the price is because like all bad salesperson they are afraid of getting what they want, so they compromise lose focus and eventually lose the sale. But what Steve Harvey forgot to say was how important a plan is before you get into a situation. I commend him for trying to get the ladies to clean up their mess that they got themselves into, but what about a defensive and preemptive strike.

Example:
Plan to have a way to get home if the initial date or outing is going awry.
Plan to drive your own car, until you get to know him better, then keep driving.
Plan to have enough money to cover your half of the date.
Plan to take at least one self-defense course at your gym.
Plan to maximize your potential before and while in a relationship.
Plan to use your instincts instead of your heart.
Plan to overstand the workings of your own mind instead of a man's mind.
Plan to take classes at Home Improvement stores instead of looking for a man who has taken the class already.
Plan to redefine what a "man" means to you before a boy posing as a man walks up pretending again.

Stay Focused!

Sunday, August 16, 2009

"Healing From a Highly Emotional Break-up."

The old saying that "what doesn't kill you-BLAH, BLAH, BLAH... is convenient, but those are the quoted axioms of the lousy and "in love". They are not the sentiment of the heart broken and emotionally distraught. Their feelings are best left to sadness and loss, but why? What are they losing, but yet another great opportunity to learn about themselves? The agony many feel is heart wrenching and inconsolable, but is treatable and preventable.

Many people ache for the hand of sympathy and the epiphany of their misunderstood love. The many that feel hopeless are unaware that they have only to learn how to deal with their E-Motions or energy in motion.

From a very young age you should be taught how to deal with your emotions in a very functional and practical way. Unfortunately, there are adults that never learn how to deal with their emotions either, because their parents never taught them or their parent did not know themselves. The key to gaining emotional empowerment lay dormant within you and not someone or anything else.

Most people seek out the distraction of other people’s angst. Other people look for the distraction of food, sex and alcohol. And the rest are motivated by their self loathing. But here lies an opportunity to redeem from within and learn how to work on the “YOU”. People love the distraction of life, usually the lives of others, which give them the perfect opportunity to delay their innate healing.

It takes courage to heal, but it takes strength to stay focus and cancel out the distractions of fear and regret. I am not here to ask you to avoid people, places or things. All that I ask is that you ignore distractions that would delay your healing.

Preventable & Treatable Ways

The question on “How do you heal from a High E-motional break-up” is simple if you look at the anatomy of your emotional make up.

Ask yourself:

1. Are you a needy person?
2. Are you a co-dependent person?
3. Were you ever explained what emotions where?
4. Where does this pain hurt the most?
5. Do I know how to deal with separation and loss?
6. Is “Love” the reason I feel what I feel or have I not learned to process and separate my range of emotions from “LOVE.”
7. Could the other person just not be for me?
8. Is this my EGO making my decisions for me?
9. Does my need for loving someone else over shadow the real love I need for me?
10. How can I utilize this E- Motional (energy in motion) body to create a better life for me?
11. Do I know the difference between LOVE & LUST?

Challenging your expectations is another way of healing from a “Highly E-Motional” break-up.
Am I a person that needs every emotional act reciprocated back to me?
If you are, c
orrect that immediately. Develop a method that would allow you to give of yourself freely without expecting something back. Usually people find it hard to do this because they feel, falsely, that they are being used. This is accompanied by a since of entitlement, however the truth of the matter is that no one owes you anything. However you owe yourself the world outside of selfish bargaining, you do, with the one you think you love.

Take the time to differentiate a passionate relationship from a passionate experience.
Often time we think we are having a passionate relationship when we are just having a passionate experience-it just last more than a one night stand. Our expectations on feelings rather perceived or unperceived set us up for emotionally disaster. Depending how we take on the feelings and onsite process of the experience determines proper healing. Learn where you are standing in the moment and see things as they are as opposed to the trappings of distorted fixations based in your crotch. Love the moment, encompassing every element, instead of just the person you are with.


No mathematical formula or vengeance can cure your dis-ease with yourself. You are the master of it all and your body mind and soul will tell when it is time to H.E.A.L. Tune into the healer within, it cures all.